In the book, Alice in Wonderland, Alice is told that if you don’t know where you are going, any road will do. That seems to be the norm for most of us. We don’t have goals, therefore, any road will do. Why don’t we have goals? Some of us don’t know to set goals, or what kind of goals to set. Some of us know, but don’t take the time to do it. We become immune to improving our lives through ignorance. Educate yourself. Learn how to set goals and achieve them.
I can’t do that! I don’t have the time! I don’t feel good today! I’m not good… I don’t like to do… We have been programmed for failure since birth by our parents, siblings, friends, schools, work, peers, newspapers, television, radio, books, magazines, etc. There is so much negativity in our lives that we can’t see improvement. We become immune because negativity overcomes us. Remove the negative things in your life – friends, what you watch and hear.
For those of us who have tried to set goals, we find that we fail often. Our subconscious mind is packed full of our past failures. We give up early because our subconscious mind doesn’t want us to fail again. It doesn’t want us to be embarrassed. Therefore, our subconscious mind imposes a barrier between our reality and our expectations. It doesn’t let us succeed because we have never succeeded in the past. We become immune to success because of our history of failure – real or perceived. Use your subconscious mind to visualize the successes your want. Start replacing your history of failure with those of success – imagined ones.
The personal stresses of family, work, finances, school, retirement, etc. weigh heavily on us every day. We come home from work tired and exhausted and just don’t want to do anything but sit down, have a beer (or two) and watch television. Stress physically and mentally affects us. Either we don’t know how to handle stress, or it’s too little too late. We are immune from improving our lives because we can’t manage stress. There are many stress management techniques that will fit the time you have each day. Learn them and use them daily.
We find ourselves late for many things. We can’t find the time to get things done. We consciously or unconsciously get further and further behind. Procrastination replaces productivity on a regular basis. Time management techniques don’t work all the time. We continually slip back into a routine that we don’t like, but we accept. We become immune to a better life through procrastination. Time management is one tool to counter procrastination. Education is required to learn what works and what works best for you.
Every one of us lives in a comfort zone. Those who are productive and reach goals regularly have comfort zones. Those who continually succeed in life reset their comfort zones on a regular basis. What’s a comfort zone? It’s the part of our lives make us feel comfortable, security, happy – regardless of everything else happening in the world around us. Pleasure becomes an obsession to offset the pain, frustration, aggravation and hassle of dealing with life. We become immune to change by living in the comfortable past. Every journey starts with a single step. Make a minor change in your daily life that gives you a little extra time to focus on your future.
The vast majority of us sub-optimize our lives. We concentrate on one thing at the expense of another. We don’t have balance in our lives. We spend more time at work to get ahead and to get more money. We spend more time exercising to be healthy and stay healthy. We remain in a perpetual status quo in our personal development. We become immune to a more abundant life because we concentrate on those minor things that don’t make a significant impact on our lives. Reflect on what you spend your time on and what results from it. If they are not improving your life, don’t do them.
We sabotage our lives in many ways and decide that we have to live with the seeds we planted – and most of them become weeds that end up strangling us. We have the capacity for change, but for a wide range of reasons, we accept the status quo. Awareness is the best place to start. Where are you today? Education is needed to take the first step. Nevertheless, the two most important things to do are to decide you must change and then take action.